We live in a day and age where instant gratification happens on the daily. There’s no more waiting for things, it’s now or never. I’m guilty of this too, wanting what I want now or it’s forget if forever. How do we deal with the No’s?
When the answer is No to something you really want like that part in a show, no call back, not getting accepted into your number one choice of school/ or program, not hearing back for that job you wanted etc. Do we just fold and give up or keep on trying? A No should fuel us into becoming better, never throw in the towel and say fuck this.
How many towels will we eventually collect? And how many fuck this will be written all throughout our journey if we didn’t keep trying? It’s easy to never try again, that’s light work. But to never give up on something you truly believe is for you, go after that shit and don’t stop. 1 no, 2 no’s even 3 no’s could turn into a lifetime of Hell Yes!
Lets think of the No’s in life as not right now, or not this season, or it’s not for you something better will come. But if we sat on No’s from years ago, where would we be today? Let that sink in for a moment. I remember hearing No in fourth grade to partake in a storytelling show, we had to memorize a book and to my surprise my librarian said I wasn’t good enough.
I share this to say I studied this book after homework everyday for a hour in the mirror. That No changed my life. Yes, it hurt to be told no but, you know what it taught me something ... I wasn’t ready, meaning confident enough. That lesson showed me there will be No’s but what do I do? Cry over spilled milk every time I hear a no? No, take it under the chin and get better.
This rejection goes into all aspects of life even relationships and/or dating. A no from dating someone you dreamed of dating could be a blessing in disguise, don’t question it. Let it go. That NO might’ve saved you thousands of headaches and worries. This is the area where I say if it’s a No, it’s a hell no. Dont keep trying sis/bruh.
What’s for you will always be for you and find it’s way. Just don’t become petty or bitter, allow it to if anything humble you and teach you a lesson. Always be better never bitter.
As always lots of love and bub,